Gay, Christian and Celibate

In a most recent Glory to God podcast entitled “No Opinions Needed”, Fr. Stephen Freeman spoke about the noise in our minds that drowns out prayer and our ability to hear God.  He says, “Watch a news program or spend an hour on FB and try not to react.  We do not need opinions.  We do not have opinions. Opinions have us.”  His words struck home.

That being said, I am giving in to “my opinions” to list here some podcasts and articles (as I find them) which I have found helpful as I pray and think about how to deal with my internal feelings regarding the homosexual agenda currently at the forefront in America.  Perhaps you will too.

“No Opinions Needed” by Fr. Stephen Freeman

“Gay and Christian: Forging a Life of Integrity” and interview with Dr. Wesley Hill

Patristic Nectar Publications


Persons with same sex attractions deserve our respect and compassion. But the militant gay movement’s message that ‘gay’ is good is completely false. This lie is confusing society and hurting the individuals themselves. Published 19 Feb 2013 by Church Militant. H/T: Fr. John Whiteford “The source is not Orthodox, but it is a great overview of how we got here, and also exposes many of the typical lies the media has been telling us. “

Opinion Article 30 May 2015  in “The Australian” by Anthony Fisher, the Catholic Archbishop of Sydney

Same-sex marriage undermines purpose of the institution

We all know and love someone with same-sex attraction. We want them to be happy.

So we all feel the tug of the view that everything that makes hetero­sexuals happy should be open to same-sex attracted people — including marriage.

Some say marriage should be redefined as a public commitment by people to love each other, and so any two people should be ­allowed to marry. Anything else would be unfair, discriminatory, unequal.

But hold on: what if marriage is essentially heterosexual? No one thinks it’s wrong to restrict primary schools to children, women’s hospitals to women, Abor­iginal land rights to indigenous Australians … some things are precisely for them and exist because of them. The question is: is marriage precisely for “man and wife” and, if so, why?

When a churchman like me asks such a question it’s readily assumed to come from faith-fuelled bigotry. To the extent churchmen, or other Christians, have been guilty of bigotry I am ashamed and sorry. At many times in history, and sadly still today in some ­places, people with same-sex attraction have suffered injustice or unlove from some believers. This is to be deplored.

But the idea that marriage must be between man and woman is not bigotry. It is not even particularly Christian: every major world religion has thought so. Nor is the idea peculiarly religious: every major civilisation until now has thought so.

Even in highly diverse and sexually opportune cultures such as ancient Greece marriage was reserved to a man and a woman.

So why not morph marriage into a new institution for anyone who wants publicly to commit to loving each other?

For starters, marriage doesn’t just harmonise two people’s emotional lives.

Marriage has always been valued for holding together things that otherwise tend to pull apart: sex and love, love and babies, men and women, babies and parents. Not every marriage successfully unites all these things, but only the union of a man and woman can possibly do so.

Not every marriage ends up having kids, but every kid has a mum and dad. Marriage exists to bring a man and woman together so that, in the normal course of things, they become father and mother to any kids their love creates, and then to hold that man and woman together so those kids have parents for the long haul.

Reducing marriage to whatever gives adults emotional satisfaction leaves us with no real reason such a union should be for life (as feelings aren’t), why it should be between only two people (three or more may love each other too), or why government should regulate it at all. (We don’t need a registrar to tell us who to love or for how long.)

To claim there are differences between men and women, mothers and fathers, parents and children, and to support an institution built around those distinctions, need not be unjustly discrimin­atory. What is unjust is to pretend these differences are irrelevant to the lives of all those already married, those who in future may want real marriage, or those whose families are founded on this ­relationship.

Many people today find it hard to commit to marriage and stay married. There are lots of reasons for that. But adding to the confusion about what marriage is and is for, and further deconstructing this institution, will only weaken it further.

We could do more to ensure the same-sex attracted are treated with respect and love.

But in doing so we don’t have to undermine marriage further. Don’t mess with marriage.

Anthony Fisher is the Catholic Archbishop of Sydney.



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